dear madam temilolu,
thanks for your articles ma’am. however, i’m confused as there is stated in a book about ѕҽх that it’s good to know about ѕҽх and see it as enjoyment not as a problem or something that will make one not to go to heaven. in fact, it says that if one is not having ѕҽх, one’s hormones will be lacking some things. my question is this, which one is better; knowing how to have ѕҽх with one’s husband because if one doesn’t satisfy him, it will be a problem or keeping one’s virginity because of christ?
dear aunty temilolu,
i’m 23 and still a virgin. sometimes, i feel stupid because i’ve come across guys in church who say they don’t like virgins or can’t marry one and this can be discouraging. i feel left out especially when i meet clean, cute, hardworking guys that can take care of me and my parents/relatives who can’t be bothered about my wellbeing. let’s be realistic, those who enjoy premarital ѕҽх end up with better men and better marriages than those who are chaste.
my darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated nigerian sisters,
how can you be a rare gem and complain about what a perverted world thinks? if you girls knew what guys really think about ѕҽхually-active girls and where they place them in their lives, you’ll cower in shame! in fact, time has proven a lot of guys would go around sowing their wild oats sweeping off the feet of every available girl; lay her then end up marrying a virgin. what in the world happened to your common sense and dignity girls? the preservation of your virginity is in your sole interest!” i can’t believe anyone would ask me if it’s better to learn the art of ѕҽх before marriage to satisfy her husband or remain pure because of what the scripture says! lord have mercy!!!
i should also ask you which you’d rather go for- a fairly-used car or brand new car? even a bad or crazy man in his lucid intervals would treasure a wife he deflowered and she would earn his respect and trust for life. also, do you know a chaste lady has the power to attract a damn good man- even if she’s once been ѕҽхually-active and then surrendered to god? people say “bad girls” end up with good men and in good marriages. this could be true because they have “na ‘gbara, na “gboro” i.e. that is they’ve sampled and been sampled by diverse type of men so they have an idea of the good and bad ones or the type of men they could subdue to their whims and caprices. but guess what? they have laid a bad foundation that opens up their marriage to satanic attack also. they may be insatiable in bed! also, the man may be good but not their original spouse!
how can two soul-mates paired up by god not be able to satisfy themselves ѕҽхually? do you know the fact that your husband/wife is a virgin is a great turn on for you in the first place? in a world where 14-year-olds are engaging in ѕҽх like it’s an indoor game, a lady who keeps herself till her 20’s or 30’s is made of the rarest type of gem! because god is not only at the centre but the chief controller of an undefiled marriage bed, you are both controlled by him. he’s in fact the chief commander of your emotions and the way your boԀɪҽs respond to each other and because he controls your minds (that is if you allow him); the slightest touch from either of you just sends you to cloud 81! it sparks off celestial fire! because you allowed god to fine-tune you in the supernatural, being in subjection to him and your divine partner (not necessarily the one your pastor recommended) locating you, a mere thought of each other turns you on and you want to run home from work and be with no other person than your spouse, your greatest treasure, your goldmine and honey pot! i insist there’s something in an unpolluted destiny that naturally magnetises his/her divine partner! you tremble with passion at each other’s presence! you want to explore what no one has ever had access to! do you get it?
girls…girls…girls, why do you like dulling yourselves? why are you so impatient? why can’t you lay a solid, consecrated foundation for a beautiful future in the first 25 years of your life? life would be a lot easier to coast through and enjoy optimally! may the fire of god hit you wherever you are and arrest your hearts in jesus’ mighty name!